The Build up
Engaged couples plan their weddings with near military precision (although this is mostly down to the sensible bride-to-be rather than the overawed groom) but you still might find yourself called up in your position as best man to lend a helping hand. So communicate regularly with the nearly-weds in the build up to their big day and offer your services where required.
You are the BEST man so make sure you live up to your new title!
Chief among your new roles is to make sure the groom has an ally and friend in need to call on when the wedding madness starts to threaten his own sanity. Having to choose just one out of 200 dresses that all look the same to him, picking the perfect font for table name cards, deciding who sits on what table, he will have been informed that all these things are now more important than the meaning of life. So throw him a lifeline with "wedding fact finding missions" to the local pub to help plan.
And perhaps drink a little, well it’s a pub so it would be rude not to.
The Bachelor Party
As the best man it's down to you to organise the bachelor party. A weekend of such epic proportions that Morgan Freeman will want to narrate it. If you're stuck for ideas or simply want to make the condemned man groom’s last days of freedom truly memorable then check you can download our FREE bachelor party games database
It Suit You
Yes you will be wearing a suit that someone else has chosen but this isn't your big day, if you're asked to give an opinion try to support the couple's choice rather than throw in more confusion and put your own taste to one side.
Unless you hear the words "velvet suit" in which case call the fashion police immediately.
Another of your best man duties is to get the main man to the church on time, in one piece and wearing the right suit. Don't leave anything to chance and this isn't the fast and furious, the groom and his best man should arrive at the church cool, calm and collected. So check ahead to see if there are any road works or local events that might get in the way come the big day.
Best Man Trivia
On The Day
Get Him to the Church on Time
The groom will either be cool as ice and taking it all in his stride, or more nervous than a death row inmate at a "leaving party". Even if he just one cufflink away from meltdown, make sure you are the rock in his ocean of panic. Forget any nerves about your wedding speech, it's his day so make sure you’re there for him to prevent any meltdown or last minute wobbles.
Most importantly, get him to the right venue, in the right suit wearing matching socks.
Organise the Groomsmen
There is just a chance there will be other groomsmen even feeling even more clueless than you have been. It's up to you to help get this rabble ship shape and working like a well-oiled machine. Don't panic, there won't be too many tasks, handing out hymn sheets, making sure everyone know which side of the church/venue to sit on. One important role is to make sure any young groomsmen are taken care of. As you're likely to be busy make sure one of the other groomsmen is on hand to look after any really children that are playing a role in the wedding.
The Fellowship of the Rings
That shouldn't be too hard right? Well you will be checking your pockets every five minutes to make sure you've got them but no. This should be a fairly simple task. However one handy tip; when it comes to the moment in the ceremony when the couple have to take the rings it's possible their hands will be shaking so rather than just holding out the ring boxes, place the rings on the flat of your palm which will make it easier for them to take and prevent them from being dropped on the floor (which is something that happens more often than people realise).
The photographer might well be working alone and won't be familiar with the key members of the wedding party. What's more as soon as he thinks he's got everyone assembled the bride will suddenly realise her favourite Aunt Vanessa is MIA. Wedding photos can take far too long if not properly organised so be on hand for a little crowd control if needed and help make sure the right faces are there, ready for the right photos. Enlist the help of the groomsmen if needed.
If you can, try and be ready straight after the ceremony to start getting the key figures together for the all important photo shoot.
Master of Ceremonies
If the wedding doesn't have an official MC this role should fall to you to organise the speeches, introduce each of the speakers and bring things to a close at the end of your own speech. Also if you can, check out the sound system or microphone beforehand to ensure everything is working.
Best Man's Speech
This is the defining moment of your career as best man. It is probably both a blessing and a curse that the groom has finally admitted that you are indeed the best man, however that double edged sword means as well as a free diner, you have to give to write a speech that will sing his praises (lie if necessary) and entertain the wedding guest while not offending the priest, bride, groom, or their families.
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Get the Party Started
Having got the groom to the church on time, not lost the rings and wowed the guest with the funniest wedding speech of all time you are probably ready for a well-earned drink and to enjoy the compliments while comtemplating your future career as a stand-up comedian. Sadly that fat lady hasn’t sung yet. You still have a little more work to do.
Once the newly-weds have performed the first dance it is traditional for the Best Man to dance with the chief bridesmaid (as best man duties go this can either be a blessing or a very long 3 minutes depending on who your opposite number is). Even if you’re not a natural dancer, throw yourself into the role and help get the party moving and make sure the dancefloor is never left empty.
You’ll also need to play defence for the happy couple; the caterers, phtotographer, DJ, bar staff, band, etc might have questions or problems they want to raise with the new Mr & Mrs. Be on hand to answer any questions and if you're not sure of the exact answers then consult with the bride's parents or the bridesmaids to solve any problems so the stars of the show can concentrate on enjoying their evening and their guests.
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If people are bringing gifts to the wedding, the last thing the couple will want to worry about is how to transport them all. Enlist the help of the bridesmaids and groomsmen to help carry the wedding presents to the bridal suite or the couple’s car.
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It is traditional for the wedding car that the couple leave in to be decorated, and who are you to mess with tradition. Once again, grab the groomsmen and bridesmaids to help make sure that no one passing the newlyweds car will not be aware that it’s their big day with the help of streamers, shaving foam, lipstick and any other materials that you can lay your devious hands on.