The Best Man's speech is traditionally given 3rd after the Father of the Bride and the Groom. Wedding speeches can sometimes be a bit dull (father's of the bride please leave the room now) so it's down to you as best man to add some laughs. Get your best man’s speech right and you'll be hailed a hero, free drinks at bar and the single bridesmaid of your choice. Get it wrong and you’ll have to spend the evening in the parking lot wishing you hadn't done the joke about the stripper and the beer pong ball.
Timing - What is the perfect length for a Best Man's Speech?
The father of the bride traditionally pays for the wedding and is "giving away" his daughter. Therefore it's his right to speak for as long as he wants. And at some weddings that's a long time. Therefore you need to keep your speech crisp, short and light. The ideal length of Best Man's speech is about 7 minutes.
"Gary's parents always had such high hopes for him growing up. And maybe one day he will."
Don't swear! This is a wedding not a bar room. Remember this will be a family affair and there will be people of all ages listening to you. So whatever you do make sure the language you use and stories you're telling are suitable for your audience.
Yes you want to get laughs but again stay away from cheap jokes and bar room humor. What might seem funny to the guys in the locker room might not go down well with the brides deeply traditional grandparents. And remember the golden rule what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas, what may or may not have happened during the bachelor party, the wedding isn’t the place to talk about the wedding isn't the place to explain how the groom ended up with that bruise/tattoo/rash.
Is There Anything I Have To Include In My Best Man Speech?
Traditionally the best man answers the groom on behalf of the bridesmaids and groomsmen for his thank you's and any gifts. Also don't forget that not everyone at the wedding will have met you before so introduce yourself and explain your relationship to the groom during the beginning of your best man speech "Hi for those of you I haven't met my name's Chris and I'm Rick's best friend/cousin/parole officer."
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Don't Forget The Bride
While one key element of your speech is to give the groom a traditional comedy roast don't forget to mention the bride. This might seem really obvious to you but there are a surprising number of best men who forget to mention the bride on her big day.
Keep it light
No matter how much you've roasted the groom during your speech there will come a time to say a few sincere words. But go easy. Yes, you want to let the groom know what a great guy he is and how honored you were to be chosen as his best man, but you're not Gwyneth Paltrow and this isn't the Oscars. Keep it light. Your main role is to provide the laughs and leave everyone on high note.
At any wedding there are a few people who can't be there on the day. Traditionally it falls on the best man to read any messages, emails or cards from guests or family members who aren’t present. Before the wedding speeches begin check with the groom and his family to see if there are any messages to read out.