The Father of the Bride's speech is given first before the Best Man and the Groom. The best man is usually primed for action and ready to give the blushing bridegroom a comedy roast to get everyone laughing (at the main man's expense, its tradition). The groom will also try and get a few pre-emptive strikes in at his partner in crime before the onslaught begins. However the father of the bride's speech is often a bit dry, or worse, cheesy. But with a little help from our team of professional comedy writers you can break with groan-worthy tradition and deliver a funny and original speech.
If you've never written a father of the bride's speech before here are the golden rules of the father's wedding toast.
The cardinal sin of wedding speeches is to dragging it out too long. Even though you might well have laid out a great deal of money so that a crowd of hungry relatives you might not like and strangers you've never met before can have a free meal and party at your expense) try not to let your speech go on too long. The perfect length of a wedding speech is about 7 minutes.
Rehearse your speech allowed against the clock, to test just how long it's running.
While your speech will be more restrained than the Best Man's that doesn't mean it has to be too straight faced. As you'll be speaking first you have opportunity to kick things off in style with some really well aimed jokes of your own. Our Speech Builder has over 4,000 icebreakers, jokes and quotes to get you started.
Is There Anything I Have To Include In My Speech?
Firstly, make sure you introduce yourself at the top of your speech. Along with all your family, there will be members of the groom's family and the couple's friends who might not know your name.
It is also traditional for the bride's father to welcome all the guest to the wedding and thank them for coming, with a special mention to the groom's parents and family.
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Wedding Speech Toasts
The father of the bride is responsible for two key toasts at the end of his speech. The first is "To absent friends" or relatives. There may be key family members on both sides who might not be present or have passed away in the year preceding the wedding. Check with the groom prior to the wedding if there is anyone he'd like you to mention.
The second is to toast the newly-weds which will mark the end of your speech.
Don't Forget The Groom... Or your wife!
Of course there will be plenty you wish to say about/to your daughter but remember to include your new son-in-law in your speech. And don't be afraid to throw a joke or two his way, it is a happy occasion after all.
Most importantly don't forget to mention the bride's mother, surprisingly it's a mistake many father's make and quickly come to regret.
Keep it light
You might have imagined giving a wedding speech ever since your daughter started bringing home serious boyfriends (the ones you "warmly" took to your den to show your gun) but try not to go overboard. It's important you display some emotion but this isn't the Oscars and no one wants to see you doing a Gwyneth Paltrow. If there are some things that are very personal or perhaps you don't feel comfortable saying in front of a room of staring eyes then perhaps write a separate letter to your daughter which she can read on the day (preferably before her makeup has been applied so your tender words don’t result in a complete Alice Cooper makeover).
The main things though is to enjoy every minute of the big day, it will come and go in a flash so take time to soak up the occasion. And despite any nerves you may feel, let yourself enjoy your speech. We have plenty of advice for nervous speakers and also some great jokes or kind words to include in your speech. So relax, let your pride shine through and when the time's right, wreak havoc on the dancefloor!